In the last few days, I’ve come to a realisation that there is something unpleasant that wine & football share, and it involves people falling over.
(Yes, this is my gratuitous World Cup post, including a tenuous, though hopefully interesting, link to wine).
I decided a long time ago, following the Heysel Stadium Disaster to be precise, that I didn’t really care for football, a.k.a. soccer (or most sports to be honest). However, I do care about sport in general, particularly with regard to making sure my kids enjoy a healthy and fun lifestyle. I do enjoy watching occasional, hopefully high quality, games at the final of big events such as Wimbledon, the Olympics and the Ryder Cup. I rarely care who wins, I just enjoy the moment, the excitement and, I hope, the spectacle of sportsmanship.
So, like I said, I don’t like football.
I did watch some of the World Cup, particularly as I had some personal stake in Spain doing well, and so I thought I would use the opportunity to let my 5 year-old daughter stay up late to watch her very first World Cup Final. What an opportunity.
What a mistake!
Fouls, dirty play, few chances and, in general, a poor showcase for the sport. She went to bed at half time excited and high on the adrenaline from the aggression rather than the quality of play.
What made it worse was the excuse by the Dutch coach saying:
“It was still our intention to play beautiful football, but we were facing a very good opponent. … We did a good job tactically on them. We got into good positions at times. It’s not our style, but you play a match to win.”
Is that what I have to tell my daughter?
It reminded me that a few days earlier we had watched 7 year old boys at her school playing football in an early morning coaching session. In the 5 minutes or so that we were there, several kids not only fell over on the ground after fairly innocuous tackles, but lay there, clutching their legs and heads in absolute agony … until it was time to take the free kick. At one point, a child literally dragged his mate off the ball by the arm, and when challenged, he uttered these words:
“But that’s what they do in football”
Who are these kids’ role models? Any guesses?*
(* If there isn’t a football equivalent of the Razzies, celebrating the most theatrical acting on the pitch, there should be)
Wine, or more generally, alcohol, suffers from a similar issue. What do kids think about wine? Where do they see it being consumed?
- On television – only when it is a major part of a plot, usually involving a drunken adult, probably doing something inappropriate, funny or violent.
- In the pub or at parties – when they may be invited along where adults, not necessarily their parents, are likely to get carried away.
- On the street – and none of us like seeing that.
- At home
If we want kids to have a healthy attitude to alcohol, we need to give them experiences and role models to use. This does not meet not drinking around children as some suggest. Don’t get DRUNK around children, but do show them how adults can enjoy their drinks responsibly.
Just as it is a shame that my daughter’s first major lesson about football was about yellow cards versus red cards, we don’t want their first lessons about alcohol to be about hangovers, aggression and car accidents. Hopefully we can be more positive.
If parents, or any of us, aren’t acting as fair role models, where else will children turn to for guidance? What you don’t want is to see your child, hanging onto his friend’s arm, falling to the ground saying:
“But that’s what they do in the pub”
For more information, please check out the campaign being run by Wine In Moderation, a pan-European programme promoting responsible and moderate wine consumption
The Alcohol Education and Research Council: See (“Why do people drink at home? An exploration of the perceptions of adult home consumption practice“)
[still trying to find research I once saw where UK consumers placed “To get drunk” at the top of a list of “Reasons why you drink”]